How We See The World

We all have an assumptive worldview. . .until we get really bad news. Then, it all changes. One of the greatest challenges in grief-work is putting the pieces of our worldview back together and defining our own sense of the "new normal."

One step in reconstructing our worldview is to find a way to make sense of our loss. This does not mean that you are dismissing your pain or pretending that you wouldn't rather have them by your side, healthy and happy. It is simply a way to wrap your mind around what happened. This, like grief itself, is a process - so don't feel you need to force it.

Sense-Making

From Mindfulness & Grief

Making sense means comprehending the loss in the most positive way possible. For instance, if your loved one was in pain when they died or experienced a prolonged illness, it is natural to feel relief that their suffering is over. You may remind yourself that they are no longer in pain. In the case of military, police, or firefighters, you may find comfort in acknowledging that they died for their country or while saving another person’s life.

Of course, these two examples may not resonate with you at all. You wish they were still here, or that they had not placed themselves in danger. This is natural, too. Remember that there is no right way to grieve, so the way you